The Confidence Secret

I won't drag it out and make you guess. It isn't really a secret, behavioral researchers have shown that confidence is the result of 2 important elements.

The first is action. The second is self-efficacy, or having the BELIEF in yourself, BELIEF that you are capable.

If you think about the times that you felt most confident, it was probably around something that you had done enough times to know that you could do it well. Even if you consider yourself a very confident person, there was a time you were about to do something you had never done before and you weren't quite as confident. The confidence grew with repetition and familiarity. This is why practice and doing everything necessary to prepare is so important.

Confidence comes from having the courage to take action, knowing you will probably fail and being okay with that, recognizing and accepting that failure is an important part of the process.

This is how far a lot of us get before we say, "Whoa wait a minute, where's the courage part of it supposed to come from?" Yes, got it, I'm not trying to trick you,

courage comes from learning the skills of perspective and self-talk. I'll be getting into these in more depth in future sessions.